Spanking. I don’t know about you, but most of the kids I knew growing up got spanked when they were little. It’s just what parents did. You did something wrong, you got spanked. Nowadays, of course, a good portion of the civilized world thinks spanking kids is violence. Your mileage may vary, of course. I, for one, was never spanked as a kid, but Bonnie was from time to time.
But what about adult spanking, in connection with BDSM practices? How does that fit in? We have talked to a lot of people over the years, and there doesn’t seem to be any correlation between being spanked as a kid, and either liking to spank, or liking to be spanked as an adult. So, who knows?
But I’m not interested in solving the mystery of why some perfectly sane adults like to be spanked. I want to explore the many ways to get involved in this awesome and very sexy practice. What if you want to just introduce someone to the concept, whether the spankee or the spanker? How the heck do you bring that subject up?
I told our story some time back about bringing the subject up to Bonnie. I gave her a lengthy questionnaire that asked lots of sex-related questions, like “do you ever fantasize while having sex,” or “do you like the idea of having sex when someone might find out,” and one of those questions was something like, “what do you think about a mild spanking?” As reported in that post, Bonnie had never thought of the idea, but didn’t really go for it. Until she did. I don’t know, I guess the suggestion just kept rambling around in her head, and one day she brought the subject up.
I don’t need to say how excited I was, but we took it slow from there, and you should too.
A reasonably good book to get you started, and hopefully get your significant other interested is SM 101, by Jay Wiseman.
There are also many articles online that can help, too. A little searching can go a long way. And don’t forget that we sell several pieces of bondage furniture that are perfect for the application of a good spanking. Our Kneeler Spanking Bench, of course, is one, but the Classic Sawhorse with Pads, and really most of our pieces are perfect for spanking. Check them out.
Next time I’ll give some ideas into implements–everything from the hand to some of Bonnie’s favorites. Yes, indeed, she has come a long way in our journey.
Until next time,
Clyde
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