And on to the final spanking class, at least for 2013. I believe I left off the last installment with floggers. This one will be about what Bonnie and I consider to be the grand daddies of discipline implements–whips. This may turn many of our readers off, and then again, it may turn some on. Certainly, if you have no interest in the subject, stop here. But if you are looking for the next level in your discipline-oriented bondage play, then by all means, keep reading.
The whole idea of spanking comes down to what sort of sensation you are looking for, and how much of it? Are you looking for a sting, a thud, leaving marks? And if yes to marks, how long-lasting? Before I go on, let’s get into a bit of safety discussion. First, remember that this type of play always needs to be consensual, and you need to have a “safe” word. Beyond that, you need to realize that whips can be dangerous if you do not know how to use one. So, by all means, practice first. There are all kinds of places online that will give you some instructions.
In order to be realistic with using a whip inside a home, we use only relatively short whips. Again, I will remind you…practice, practice, practice. You need to realize how much “snap” you are producing, and how it will feel on your sub’s skin. So, after you have practiced, made sure your sub has complete trust in you, and discussed safe words, etc., you are ready to go. I was pretty concerned the first time we used one of these babies with Bonnie, but she gave me all kinds of feedback, so I could know if things were okay, or if she wanted more.I believe I have discussed previously how she really likes me to use “gusto” with our discipline sessions. I am a lucky man, indeed.
Because all people are different, and have different pain thresholds, AND, like to experience different levels of pain, this is a difficult practice on which to give advice. You and your sub just have to be very open and honest about what you want. Of course, the person on the receiving end of a whip has the most important feedback, but don’t be afraid to tell him/her what it is you might like. I found it quite a turn-on to be able to tell Bonnie that I loved seeing the lingering marks on her back and/or thighs even a few days later–BUT, this was only after she told me that she loved to see them as well.
As far as recommendations for actual whips, we have purchased one from David Morgan, although we recall reading somewhere (I cannot find the link) that Mr. Morgan does not appreciate his whips being used for BDSM, so if you choose to order anything from him, don’t give that away. The whip we purchased from him is a short (3 ft., I believe) signal whip. It leaves by far the best marks. (Oh, and by the way, our object is to NEVER break the skin, and we have not ever done so). The whip we use that Bonnie considers the most pain-inducing is the Quirts Viper. We both think it is a beauty, and it is certainly one of our favorites.
Now, how best to go about using your whip(s)? We suggest the Discipline Stand as an excellent piece of BDSM furniture to use with any discipline implement. On this piece, your sub can be secured standing, either facing toward, or away from you, affording maximum body area for viewing, etc. Another excellent idea is the St. Andrew’s Cross. Again, your partner can be either facing you, or facing away. And the facing away is kinda cool, as the one on the receiving end cannot see what is coming (or, you could use a blindfold, of course).
Just use your imagination, and check out all of our bondage furniture items. Any, or all of them can be used to much pleasure and satisfaction, whether you are into spanking or not. They are just all amazing pieces of sex furniture that are very well-made, and will give you years of good use.
Until next time,
Clyde
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