I said last month we would explore some myths about BDSM. There are many, as no doubt you can imagine. One minor one I would like to mention first is that not all BDSM activities include pain. Some submissives just like the feeling of helplessness, being bound, blindfolded, etc, and are not necessarily into pain.
Let’s look at the number one myth. It is that the dominant partner is abusive. This is most definitely not the case. Dominants want to fulfill the desires of their partners, not harm them either emotionally or physically. If one considers any hand-slap mark “abuse,” well, you’re reading the wrong blog. Some subs, like Bonnie here (that’s me), love to have red marks that last a while. They remind me of the last time Clyde and I had a bondage session, and make me smile. 
A dominant likes to be in control, of course, but always tempered by giving pleasure to his partner. BDSM is not the same as sexual sadism and masochism, which involve actual physical or psychological suffering to one’s partner or oneself, respectively. BDSM, on the other hand, involves only the role-playing of such acts. There is always a focus on safety.
The next one relates to the first: The dominant is in control. Makes sense, doesn’t it? Think again. Since he (I will use the male pronoun here, because that is how it is with Clyde and me) chiefly wants to give pleasure to his sub, and fulfill her needs, the submissive is ultimately the one in control. Who woulda thought?
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Next time, we’ll discuss a couple more myths.
Until then,
~Bonnie
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