What is sexual discipline? Why would anyone want to be disciplined or dominated? I can tell you for sure that Bonnie absolutely loves her discipline sessions. Check out other blogs or websites on the BDSM lifestyle, and you will learn that this is not uncommon. I know that we have all heard about men who seriously knock women around, and the women keep coming back. This is not what I am referring to at all.
No Violence Allowed
No, as always (I cannot ever emphasize this enough) I only refer to consensual bondage, discipline, and sex. And, if you happen to have a female dominant/male submissive (or some other) relationship, just switch the roles. But as I have explained previously, I come from a male dominant/female submissive point of view.
In truth, many, many women (and some men, as well) want their partner to spank them. Just Google it. You will find hordes of people (mostly women, I’ve found) who crave discipline.
Bondage & Discipline a Forbidden Topic?
Why then, is the subject seemingly so taboo? Why do Bonnie and I feel we must hide our desires from others (besides the fact that it’s none of their damn business)? I don’t know. Perhaps our neighbors all have bondage furniture hiding in their closets or garages, but somehow I doubt it. Where are all these people?
All I know is that it has come more into the open, what with the 50 Shades of Grey books and all the hype that surrounded them. The second movie in the series is out now. Bonnie read all the books a couple of years ago to see what all the fuss was about. But the important thing is, the subject is out there.
Is the Feminist Movement to Blame?
I firmly believe that the reason, at least in part, has to do with the feminist movement of the last few decades. Women are in such force in the work place, and have finally been able to climb the corporate ladder. We have female CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, and women have even been invited to join the once exclusively male membership at Augusta National. Why would any of them want to admit that their desire for domination by a male in any aspect of their lives?
Dr. Laura Berman says this, “Being dominated and out of control can feel very sexy, especially if you are someone who is typically in control and juggling many responsibilities at once. It can be very freeing and erotic to simply relinquish those responsibilities and tap into your sexual side without any guilt or pressure.”
It Doesn’t Have To Involve Pain
So, who knows? And, incidentally, being submissive does not mean you need to like pain (though Bonnie does…at least pain that I administer). But the pain/pleasure sensors in our brain seem to be closely related.
All this to say that if you have questions about the BDSM lifestyle, or wonder if you are somehow “weird” just for looking these things up on the internet, rest assured that you are probably not so weird after all. And if you have come here to explore the bondage furniture possibilities, well that’s great. In our experience, there are toys that can enhance your sex life and pleasure whether you are the dominant or submissive in your relationship.
I’ll close now, but in my next several posts, I will outline some ways to use each and every piece of our furniture.
Until next time
~Clyde
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